Sack Lunch

No matter our circumstances or situation, we are never alone in this world. It may feel that way when we isolate ourselves but if we allow others to know our struggle and be willing to accept help, it will come from every corner of your world. That leaves you with a further responsibility, to pay it forward, as it was done for you. If you abandon that duty, you devalue the help bestowed upon you and the person who was kind enough to extend the olive branch.

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Status Update

The most beautiful aspect of such a deadly societal construct and evolutionarily necessary adaptation we have created in status is that it shows the humility of the “superstar,” and the recipient is given the opportunity to reciprocate said humility by treating the interaction as it is, a interaction with another human being; no better, no less than oneself.

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Never Too Late

I think I might know what you’re thinking. Some would laugh at or mock a thirty-five-year-old aspiring rapper. Not me. I ain’t laughin’ at none of them. Each and every person that got up there was living a dream. My boy was living his dream. How could I hate on that? I was proud of him. I was excited for him. I felt blessed to have been able to make it and see him perform. I felt honored to know that was one of my day ones and something he does best was on full display for the world, everyone in that room, to bare witness.

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Thank You for the Reminders

I am upset that I did not act. I am upset that I wasted time on other frivolous things that didn’t matter in terms of importance nor my interests. Time waits for no one and whether good or bad, right or wrong, if you don’t act on an idea, someone else will. I thought, “Damn, another idea busted and back to square one.” I think it hit harder because I was on such a nice, disciplined roll with my writing (the thing I love to do every day) and stopped for this idea. In this disappointment, I stopped listening and closed off the world. I stopped hearing what everyone was saying, until this morning.

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Self-Help, Help-Yourself

Your job is then to set out on your own journey, gorging yourself on all this information, sticking to the methodologies, believing and having faith, and taking action in order to fulfill your self-fulfilled prophecy. It can become quite overwhelming and extremely expensive. There is something wrong to this approach besides the fact that growth and enlightenment should be free. I have to believe others have said it, including the gurus whose message you buy and believe.

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Ashtray Followers

My wife and I arrived at the airport early in the morning, ready to board the plane and return home to our children. I still had more than a half of cup of 7-Eleven coffee left and time to spare. She decided to make her way to the terminal. She gets anxious about being there at a specific time. Not sure why, I assume so she can watch others board before they call our group. I wanted to have a smoke and finish my coffee.

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BBQ & Boardroom

I loved how the two molded a unique ability to become a chameleon. Some call it wearing different hats or dawning different masks. How we behaved in the hood was unacceptable in the affluent community where I attended a top-notch educational institute, with the support of damn near 100% financial aid. I learned the ways of both groups, the social norms, the etiquette, the language, how respect was earned, and the status symbols. It literally felt like two different cultures because it was.

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I Said No

When we oblige to do something we really wish to say, “No,” to doing, it usually comes from the fact that we worry about what that person may think of us.  Don’t believe me? Then why do we feel the need to justify our decision to say, “No.” People will go so far as to make up a lie about a death in the family to avoid telling someone, “No.”

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Discipline Secrets from an Athlete

That is the difference. You are disciplined but only for the activities that give you an immediate reward you can guarantee. It is easy, comfortable, and familiar that way. The other end of discipline is hard, uncomfortable, and never resembles anything you may slightly be familiar with in your history. It is engaging in the activity that will only potentially pay off, if ever, way later down the path of your journey, and is never guaranteed.

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Exercising Silence

I highly value silence. It allows for introspective reflection but it also breeds a level of communication unparalleled when there is the addition of another soul. Both require cultivation of the skill to be able to access the beauty of it all.

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Pain & Joy

As I look back on it, I realize I made a mistake as well. In my pain, I forgot to see the pleasure. I forgot to see my Mom. She had been there for me all year, at my games, supporting me in every endeavor, taking care of our family, and busting her ass at work every day so we didn’t go without. I should have hugged my Mom. I should have thanked her. I should have loved her in that moment. I should have held my head my high, proud of her. This is my biggest regret from that day.

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Honor in Defeat

There comes a time when your integrity is tested in the heat of battle. Two weekends ago, I failed that test but the recognition of being tested and my grade is of major importance. Of course, this all begins with the notion of competition, where I am at my best and my worst.

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An Unlikely Relationship

There are moments in life that seem to stand out among the routine memories.  There are people that make an unexpected impact in your journey.  Sometimes this sentiment is expected or wished, but other times, we never see it coming.  When you combine hope with the unexpected, something truly amazing may happen.

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An Open Letter to Behavior Analysis

This may be the scariest things I have done within my career as a BCBA-D. However, at this point in my personal and professionally life, it is absolutely necessary if I am to continue our marriage. This letter was born from an email soliciting my experience as former ABAI Executive Council Student Representative. The sentiment has weighed heavy on my mind for years, each time I pay the exorbitant monthly due for my student loans and as the ABAI Annual Conference approaches, which I have not attended in multiple years.

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Bite Size

We put so much pressure on ourselves to change, but the big changes are simply an accumulation of the little things. The little things, done with discipline and consistency allows one to be patient in waiting for the results you desire. We all know what the little things are but we don’t put enough importance on them. There are moments, every day, where we face the challenge of overcoming the little things.

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Time is Your Choice

The interesting and scientific concept I heard was regarding the falsehood of our surface level understanding of time as every day people. We think of, teach, remember, and speak of time in a linear fashion. Specifically, we place our stories and ourselves in the past, present, or future.

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Breathe

All of us can, if we keep it mind. If we stay mindful of being in the present moment (though it seems counter intuitive, as if thinking about it takes you out of the moment), fully absorbed and committed to what we are doing and who we are doing it with, it could literally change every interaction and experience. It will get easier to do over time and we will no longer need to think about it.

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Family & Friends

Every Sunday, our family takes some time to have fun and relax. We call it Sunday Funday. This could be something as extravagant as staying in a hotel over the weekend and splurging on an adventure or something as simple as having a BBQ full of music, laughter, and great food. This past Sunday, we watched our kids have a successful outing in flag football and on the ride home decided Sunday Funday would be seeing the new Avengers movie at the drive-in. Yes, the drive-in still exists.

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My Peacock

The first night we slept in our home, my wife and I laid our heads intimately engulfed in the future becoming the present. Before we could drift off into dreamland, we heard what could only be described as 100 cats in heat with a megaphone. It was a sound I had never heard before and was so distinct and unique, I was puzzled. I looked outside but could not determine where it was coming from or what animal was making the sound. It wasn’t until the next morning, when the neighbors approached asking, “How was the first night?” We responded, “It was great except for those damn cats in heat or whatever it was.” “Oh, you mean the peacocks. Yeah, it takes a minute to get used to.”

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